The Norwegian “Art” of Seduction

Great insights from a French woman who struggles with the Norwegian (and Danish) “art” of seduction.

A Frog in the Fjord

You might ask yourself when seeing this title: is there really anything to say about seduction in Norway? Is there even such “art” in Norway? In Italy one could write about the casanovas and the sexy brunettes agreeing with langourious eyes and loud conversations, in France it would be the born-seductors and the classy and snoby Parisian women teasing men with their red lipstick and long cigarettes. But in Norway?? Yes the Norwegian people also have some codes and mysteries surrounding seduction, and they will all be revealed to you now! As a disclaimer I must say they are probably not all revealed here, just those I’ve managed to catch despite poor Norwegian language skills and many cultural misunderstandings.

I found out that the Norwegian art of seduction is based on three basic principles. The first one is eye contact. In any setting (a metro, a party, a bar) a man or a woman…

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16 responses to “The Norwegian “Art” of Seduction

  • rebelina11

    In a way I think the “long stare” is kinda nice. I’m speaking like the introvert that I am. Any attempt to talk to me without my consent and I run the other way. The “long stare” is much less intimidating. Nowadays I’m married, so the “long stare” is my husband’s way of trying to communicate telepathically!

    • thyra10

      I do like the “long stare”. It`s kind of cute and it also leaves you a lot of space to decide what you want to do. If you`re interested you can stare back. If not, you just have to look the other way. No obnoxious people drooling down your cleavage (well, that happens too but luckily not too often).
      I also like how Scandinavian women are expected to do something. Why leave everything to the guys? 🙂
      Hehe, love your telepathic communication with your husband 😀

    • thyra10

      LOL. I think making faces to one another is one of the best things you can do in a marriage.

  • oolung

    Is he stalking me? NO he is trying to seduce you with his hypnotising long eye-contact. – that had me laughing out loud 🙂 A slightly different take on the Scandinavian rules than in your post that went viral 🙂

  • Ramalama

    He is not trying to seduce, he is merely looking at you. I repeat: looking.at.you. And then it’s up to you.

  • Ida

    This was really funny! Really like the way it is written!

  • Tmas

    Because parties are valuable! Not gonna waste away the night flirting with some girl who is like playing some weird seduction mind games, and I dont even know if shes interested or not. Life is short, man, the weekend is even shorter. Besides I have some value too, so Im not impressed by being the only one putting effort to prove myself.

  • Miya

    hmmmm…. that article for me is rather strange and just an opinion of one person (i also might be wrong).
    1. eye contact. is it only norwegian way? not correct statement definitely. it is all over the world statement. there has to be eye contact for few seconds, so people would know they are interested in each other. so there is truly a point to continue
    2. couldn;t understand second point… something about feminine woman and man shy…. aaaaaaa…. there are no rules on next step i would say it all depends on what you want (one night, few nights, forever, real love). it just might happen, and situation would appear on its own, so people start talking. and being a shy for a man? what? i understand there can be situations on being shy. but if man TRULY likes or even loves a woman he has to fight for her. he has to prove she is important for him.
    3. alcohol…. nice…. also all over the world statement. it can help to do the next step, to make people feel more rest and free…. but if you want to find the true love…. well u simply must want to be sober with him/her. if u endure the person only being a drunk…. well thats the answer you have to give 😉

  • Miri

    It’s funny what you say about the girls getting mad if the guy turns them down. What if there is a girl that he saw behind her that he liked more? Does he feel like he has to say yes to the first girl not to hurt her feelings? Honestly the shy Norwegian guys just sound like shy guys everywhere. Even with all the flirtatious men around there are always shy men who don’t really know how to approach a girl. In my job some of the guys are very awkward and don’t greet me or mumble when I speak to them. I told my friend I think my co-workers don’t like me but he explained that when guys are shy they freeze up and don’t know what to say to a girl.
    The drinking part sounds bothersome though. I love dancing and it drives me crazy if I go to a party with someone who needs to drink to loosen up.

  • Lynds

    I personally made a really silly move before, really had bad crush on a Scandinavian guy who showed interest on me (at the beginning). He walked me back home after party and I don’t know what to do so I just smashed the door without offering him to come in lol.. After reading two of your articles things become clearer and now I understand his point of view more. Well he’s gone tho, I wish I had read this before I met this Mr Straightforward!

  • Anna

    Hi!
    Love the writing style I’ve found in this post and the others! I stumbled across them because the titles were intriguing considering this man I’ve met on three occasions from Sweeden (grew up for a while in Finland).
    We’ve run into each other a few times over the past two years – always at his place of work while he’s working and with lots of people around. I REALLY, REALLY like him but what I’ve gotten on most occasions from him is strong eye contact, at times really loooooonnnnnng eye contact – once with a nice slow wink and more eye contact…. Some small talk or a ‘what are you doing tonight?’, or he came over to where I was sitting once just to tease me. But THAT’S IT….. I was hoping he’d ask me to meet up after work or to have a coffee or SOMETHING. So, as a woman originally from Chicago, I was sad and thought he didn’t like me at all. Could I have read him wrong?
    I was thinking of just ignoring him and letting him come over or not next time I see him… But now I’m not sure.???

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